my ex boyfriend and i broke up in the middle of august, but we were gonna get back together. but after saying some nasty things to him thru a phone call one day when i was having a bad day, things changed. I apologized thru text and in person, and he said it was ok and that he was sorry to, but he stopped returning my phone calls and text messages. then he just disappeared. i see him maybe once or twice a month and when i do he ignores me, but i can see him staring at me from the corner of my eye. i still hang out with his friends and one day my friend texted him saying that everyone liked me better because i was always nice and he was just a jerk, which wasn't true. he texted her back saying that no one liked me because i was a *****. i was stunned that he would say that about me. he used to tell me that he loved me. i texted him the following day saying that everything she said wasn't true, and that i didn't know why he hated me. he never answered, and i haven't texted him since. he hates my friend, so why would he be telling her this? everyone else has told me that he doesn't mention me. at a friend's party one night, everyone was drunk except me and a few people, including him. my friend lost her phone and he was trying to help her find it. i didn't know what was going on, it was dark and everyone was drunk and annoying. so when i snapped at 'someone' for shining a cell phone in my face, i thought it was just someone acting stupid. turns out it was him asking me if i'd seen her phone. oops. so i can't blame him for thinking i didn't wanna talk to him. one day when my friend and i were at a tim horton's he was there and i followed her over to his truck, where there were other people i could talk to. apparently he said, ';i guess it's time to go'; when he saw me, i don't know for sure, my friend told me, but i didn't hear him. then she said ';jeez, why do you move away whenever she's around?'; or something like that and he got all defensive and was like, ';i don't, and i don't care if she's around';. i think about him everyday and i continue to say nothing bad about him ever. i apologized and took back everything, (all i said was that he didn't try hard enough and that he didn't care, even though i knew he did) so why did he badmouth me to my friend and why does he not talk to me? yet sometimes i still see him looking at me? does he hate me or is there more to this situation? i still have strong feelings for him, he was the first person i let into my life in that way. and no matter what he says or does, i'd still love him. help?
and how can i get him back into my life?Does he have the slightest feelings left for me? if you give good advice please answer!?
You sound like a nice normal girl. He sounds like a typical jaded exboyfriend.
So what's the problem?
You're acting desperate and needy, and he doesn't want a stalker.
Instead of having low self-esteem and chasing some boy who doesn't want you, you should consider letting go and meeting someone more worth your effort.
You'd be amazed at how quickly an ex is easy to forget when you meet someone new worth getting to know.
~ RobbyDoes he have the slightest feelings left for me? if you give good advice please answer!?
for one, i just want to say that i'm sorry you're going through this, i know how hard it is for you.
and so now, on with the advice : )
firstly, he's probably just in a lot of pain and confused about whats going on. Even though you had said sorry to him about the first phone call thing that you talked about, you still probably hurt him, and guys are just really stupid and even though they say they let things go, they don't all the time.
You say he loved you when you guys were together, and so he probably still really likes you but is just having conflicting feelings.
I would just leave him be for a while, even though i know it hurts. He needs some time to get over it and you need time to cool off. When you see him, just smile and ask him how he is. Be as nice as you can without being fake. He needs to be reminded of the person he fell in love with (probably).
Truthfully, just be ready for him not to take you back. You guys might end up getting together, but really, there's a chance that you might not.
It's like you need to start a friendship back up before you can start a relationship back up. Be his acquaintance, his friend, and it might gradually morph into a relationship.
I wish you the best of luck with this, and I hope everything works out fine. For the time being, just be happy for what you have, and come off as a very confident person to all, and everything will be just fine : )
-audie
He is an idiot. He should not have bad mouth you. If you get back with him and you two happen to break up, he may bad mouth you again. Forget him. He may talk to you if you don't talk to him. If this happens, remember he is a jerk.
He doesn't want you in his life, and he's gone to great lenghts to get that message across to you. He probably said that to your friend because your friend just blasted him in a text message; I would've done the same thing. He doesn't talk to you because he doesn't want to have a relationship with you, be it friendship or romantic. It's time to gve him up and move on with your life.
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