How do you cope with this? Any advice and experiences?

I have been going out with a girl for the past 3 months and really like her. However, my former best friend who I have known for about 10 years has taken a dislike to her. Not necessarily to her but to the change of situation, we used to go into town drinking at the weekends for the past 7 years or so and now I have met someone I don't have time to do this. For the past few weeks I find I can't talk to him about normal things like football or films without him saying to me do you want to go travelling? do you want to move out?. To which I have replied not yet as want to see where this relationship goes. Recently however it feels like he is making me choose between him and her which isn't fair. I still think of him as a mate but recently found I am mourning the end our relationship. It is sad but one of those things. He is now moving out with other people and I have decided to take a step back from him to have some time to think. Is this the right thing to do?How do you cope with this? Any advice and experiences?
In my opinion it is just right what you are doing. As your best friend he should 1)understand your position, if you have a girlfriend, now she is whom you must spend most time with, after all that is the reason why you get a girlfriend, to share your time with her to get to know her better. 2)he should be very happy for you, since you now have a girl. Most friends would understand this situation, and give you your space with your girlfriend. As your best friend he should never make you choose between him and her.





He is acting as if he wants more than a friendship from you. I think you should talk to him about the situation, and get things on the open.





Hope it works out for you.





GOOD LUCK!!!How do you cope with this? Any advice and experiences?
you cant marry him,if hes a true friend you ll be mates regardless
Have you thought of including him?


Friends are forever, don't dismiss your time with him, just because of a chic.
i think he shouldn't make u choose.just let him know that u like him just as much as u like your girlfriend.damn 10 yrs that is something man. u
He seems to be a good friend. Is it really worth losing a good, stable frienship over some uncertain relationship? I'm not saying leave the girl, but make time for your frienship. It doesn't have to end.
There is some reason for this dislike (but that is not your problem) and sad to say, if he was a true friend, you would not have to choose. Yes, time to move on and up, in growing, there will a lot of people that you will just have to leave by the roadside to enjoy the roadstops you make, again, true friends will be there when you journey back, should you need to. Enjoy your life, enjoy your girlfriend and don't give it a second thought. God Bless.
People will always come and go throughout your life, how important they are to you to be worth making an effort for is up to how you want to prioritise your life.





It's not fair that he's making you choose, it seems as though he is jealous in a way and threatened by the fact that you are seeing someone.





It sounds like he has already moved on from you, by making the decision to move out, so all you can do is to let him go and give both of you some space at this stage, but still touch base occasionally with him in the future if you want to maintain the friendship in some way.