Pondering R/S: What (do you think) is a good ';first rule'; (or maxim) about giving advice?

SHOOT FROM THE HIP!Pondering R/S: What (do you think) is a good ';first rule'; (or maxim) about giving advice?
That you shouldn't really, I think we only learn from our own mistakes. There is a line in one of my favourite songs that goes something like this: Advice is a way of dishing up the past, dusting it off, painting over the ugly parts and dispensing it for more than it is worth.


Doesn't stop me though :-) ((((Uncle))))Pondering R/S: What (do you think) is a good ';first rule'; (or maxim) about giving advice?
Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. Then, when you criticize them, you are a mile away and you have their shoes!





I think the first rule is: be calm, patient and look at the response of the person you're talking to the whole time. People appreciate advice as long as it's clear you're willing to listen to and understand their response. Unfortunately online it's hard to show that attitude.
try to not judge ,(unless its deserved obviously)


instead of judging when you hear a persons problems, life challenges , expereinces, you think about it and answer it as if it was soemone else answering a q you asked





and


think about it, really think about it


if its an important problem, why woudl you go in and mess with soemones life just because your bored


you KNOW you woudlnt and COULDNT do it in 'real life' so dont frigging do it here
Do what people who ';talk to God'; do.





1. Figure out what it is you really want to do.





2. Ask God for advice





3. Make sure he agrees with you and if not, pretend you didn't hear him.





Variation:





1. Find out what the person really wants to do





2. Tell them to do that





3. Gain a reputation for incredible wisdom
Don't hate, but debate


and don't become irate


respect


each sect


never helps to just berate


inflate ballons


they swoon over


these clouds, you see


that seem so free


to me, to me, of what i see


that sky is very blue


it's true, just hear and near,


assumed a room in which it sings,


to you
Don't tell... guide. A person, is more likely to heed good advice if they are simply steered or guided in the right direction, and shown and come to the best conclusion on their own...





Telling people what to do or what is best, is hit or miss.
don't offer what is not asked of you





...unless, of course, the immediate proximity of danger necessitates your intervention.





For instance, ';Watch out for that bus!!'; would be a good example of that.
Try being open minded about things. Not everyone thinks the same way you do or has the same belief system. So me putting the Quran into every explanation would not work for someone who is an atheist or a Jew, etc.
Maximal objectivity


Your experience isn't the same as the person's.so, try to be as objective as possible and weight all options
That you would actually know something about what you are giving advice about.
Don't give others advice you yourself are unwilling to follow.
The first rule of giving advice is everyone should know advice is free.. so feel free to take it or leave it.





((((Unkie)))))





Cinn =)





P.S. It's the weekend still lol
Be sincere, say when you don't know, and if it's serious, refer to professionals
only take advice off someone whom you are willing to swap shoes with
Be nice, be quick, and say it in two lines.
First, do no harm.
I like to remember that most advice is free... and we often get what we pay for.
First, know who or what you are talking about.