Parents, do you have any advice about this?

He is so close to finishing college. The problem is, he is doing it against his will. We all know having a college degree is really helpful but he doesnt want it. His parents have paid for his school of THEIR choice for a degree of THEIR choice. They have told him they will stop paying after the four years. he wont be done in that time. so its like they are saying :';Ok we will force you to waste all this time to get this close to your degree that we chose for you then you have to finish it and go deeply into debt.'; When they see that his grades arent that great they just tear him down for it. they are not encouraging at all and I dont know what to do to help him so he doesnt feel so bad after what they say to him.Parents, do you have any advice about this?
give him a good whipping


whip him till he agrees to finish school and get better grades and make him sign a contract








he will get good grades someday if you whip him hard enough








He will thank you for whipping him once he becomes succeful in lifeParents, do you have any advice about this?
My advice is to stop blaming other people for your problems. The fact that they helped paid for the majority of the education shows that they are great parents. Many students go even without parents help and pile a huge debt due to student loans. I'm surprised you are not even grateful for their help. Stop asking what other people can do for you, but ask what can you do to help yourself. They owe you nothing!
Since he's an adult, it's his choice to continue at a school he has no wish to attend. And as an adult, he is perfectly capable of rejecting his parent's opinions about his choices.





Time for him to break free and live his own life.





All the best.
give him a good whipping and he'll get better grades for sure


force him to finish and he'll thank you someday
well if he has already gone most of the 4 years, he might as well finish, or they (his parents) will have something else to get on him about, right?


finish the 4th year, and go to a college that he wants and pursue a degree that he wants. he can get financial iad or he will have to go into debt-what ever he has to do. or he can stop after the fourth year and get a job doing something else.


if he doesn't want under their thumb, then he needs to get out from under it himself.


as far as the grades-that will be one of my stipulations when i help out with my kids college. im not paying for it if they are going to waste it, by not trying thier hardest. we aren't rich, and if they want to play with my money, then we will move along to the next sibling-it is as easy as that. they have the right to say what they want about his grades, becuase they are providing the classes for it.


i won't be paying for my kids' entire education either. i will pay for what i can, whether it be 1 year or 5, and they will have to finish it off if they want more. he should be al ittle more grateful. i had to pay my own way through what college i had. he didn't have a problem with it in the beginning , becuase he went to the school they chose. so now, his only option would be to quit (which would be a little dumb, because he is so close) or to finish while putting up with what his parents have to say. people can be overwhelming, especially parents. ';in one ear and out the other';
Well to start with you don't treat him like a child and tell him its all his parents fault.


I'm sure they are doing the best they can but everyone has their limits. If he doesnt want a degree then fine let him drop out and have the parents stop payments. He can get a vocation instead of an education. If you really want to be there for him you cant baby him, hold him to a higher standard and make him act like a man.


What is it he does want to do and then be a motivator for him. If he has no aspirations then abandon him because he has already abandoned himself.





Simple fact is that he is an adult and he needs to join the rest of the adult population and be a contributor not a Dependant!