I need some advice, what would you do?

First off I don't need any rude, vile, prejudice answers and if that's all you have you will be reported! So I'm a guy, almost 24 and I need some advice. What would you do if you were/are a guy and you took numerous tests and surveys and quizzes (One of them being the COGIATI) from transsexual.org, answered with complete honesty and every time you finished the results came out as both ';You Are meant to be a Female'; and ';You are meant to be with men';. would you consider going through full gender reassignment surgery? Should I do this?I need some advice, what would you do?
Diane is absolutely right I agree with her.I need some advice, what would you do?
First of all, as everyone says here, DO NOT rely soley on this test. I took the COGIATI test too, when i was a bit more confused, and it told me I have a strong leaning toward transsexuality, but i decided it was not my path. You need to be in therapy with a good understanding expert in gender identity issues, and you also need to spend some time, a year or more, living as a woman before you even think of surgery. And besides, many transsexuals decide to live female but without the surgery, in other words taking hormones and maybe some cosmetic work but keeping their boy parts. Not as freakish as it sounds. Anyway, those tests are only a start. You obviously have an intense desire to see how it is to be a woman and be loved by men, you can experience this somewhat without drastic surgery. So first of all you really do need the guidance of a good therapist and maybe a support group.
That's a major life altering course of action. I would tell you not to do anything without professional counseling. From what little knowledge I have on the subject, you are required to live as a woman for a year, while taking hormone therapy, before they would even consider gender reassignment. After that if that's what you want to do, go for it. Just remember it is your life and it really doesn't matter what the tests or surveys concluded. They are just fodder for psychoanalist. You have to be the one to decide what is right for you.





And for all you haters out there, I'm not gay. I just don't care if this person is.
You're considering going through gender reassignment because a quiz told you you're meant to be a woman?





What would *I* do? I would follow my heart. Do you feel like you were meant to be a woman? Are you attracted to men? If you're seriously considering gender reassignment surgery, I would suggest connecting with a local support group or touching base with someone who may be able to offer some direct support.
Good explanation of the COGIATI, Diane. It really is an irresponsible resource to even have online for reasons just like this.





First, there is NO (repeat NO) test that can determine if you are a transsexual woman.





Second, you do not need to decide to go through ';full gender reassignment surgery'; to explore your gender issues.





Third, as Diane said, the fact that you are taking tests and asking questions shows you have questions about your gender, and therefore the most intelligent thing to do is see an expert - a GENDER THERAPIST.





Nobody can tell you if you are suffering from transsexualism but you, and a gender therapist is the person who can help you to answer this question honestly.





There is only once piece of personal advice I will offer. Do not wait. Every day that passes is a day you could regret losing if it turns out you are not living the life you should.
With you all the way with the rude answers. I get pissed when I get a rude answer and usually end up fighting back.





I would just do what feels right. I go by quizzes too online, and all end up the same result. When this happens to me, I usually believe it. But I wouldn't go through any drastic measures to change myself incase I regret something. So I would just do what's in your heart.
firstly, u need to make some things clear to yourself. dont rely too heavily on the outcome of these tests,they even tell you that its not scientific or medically based. iv looked at them and i think if any guy who has a heart, common sense and a sense of right and wrong, would answer that, they'd get the same result as you. i made my cousin take that, and guess what? he got the result that he's both male and female.and he's definately male.


so, instead of relying on this, examine yourself! and be honest to yourself, u may want to write it down, to make sense of all the conflicting emotions.


if thats what u want..really want, then thats how it will be! and go ahead with your plans!





good luck, and if u need someone to talk to, im here :)
Are you crazy surgery just to change your gender. Dont belive in the stupid test it's not true. Why risk your life. You can die in the surgery n waste your money on it. If i were you trust me i woudlnt do it but is your choice if you belive in your self dont do it if you dont belive in your self i guess do what ever you want
But a quiz can't tell you who you are or what you should do. If you agree with the results of that quiz maybe you should do that surgery or just like turn gay.





If you don't agree with the results and just ignore it.
How do you feel about the results? Don't just listen to what results tell you. Do what you feel is best. Do you believe you should be a female? Do you fantasize about men? Only you can choose what is best for you.
well. i personally am gay.


but i wouldnt go thru with the surgery if you dont want to.


or if you dont feel its right.


theirs more gay ppl then the lisp talking pink shirt wearing stereotype


(no offence)


just try being gay.
do as you wish don't just do something koz the internet is saying it them tests are not true if you dont like been a boy do it but dint regret it later in life
I agree with Diane 100%
Wow, will regardless of what a test says it is what you feel inside. Do you like guys. or wish you were a girl?
Diane and Erica are correct. Speak with a gender therapist.
Hmm, well dont leave your life in the hands of a survey! Do what you think is right, and what you want. :)
No not yet at least. I suggest u try first dating / sleeping with some girls for a while and see how you feel about that. Then take it from there
No no no no way those people have that there as spam and so everyone who looks they get so much money for everyone who takes the quiz i would never change my body because a test tells you your gay
You serous?? Don't believe anything you read on the internet.. Your old enough to make your own decisions.. But a decision like this will be permanent and you should really think hard about it!!!!
I wouldn't take the advice from what paper says. People are far too complicated to be dissected by simple quizzes. Just follow your heart is all I can say.
If it makes you happy, yea :)
No you might regret it when you get old
no
no
That's kind of drastic considering it's only an online survey. Don't do it unless you really want to.
...if you think you should, then yes. dont let online tests tell you what to do.
If that's what you want..... yea, go for it. But consider the risk of infection and stuff like that
if thats how you want to be and it makes you happy then sure.........but dont let quizzes rule your life
Should you consider transition on the basis of your answers to the COGIATI test (or any other online test, for that matter)?





NO, absolutely not.





This test is not, and is not intended to be, a genuine diagnostic tool; read the disclaimer. It's not scientific; most of the questions are heavily weighted toward stereotypes, and it's very easy to see which answer you're expected to give.


If you present yourself to a gender specialist and tell him that you're sure you're transsexual because the COGIATI says you are, he'll laugh you out of his office (believe me; I mentioned to mine that I had taken this test, and his response was, ';Why didn't you just ask an astrologer?';).





I have several transsexual friends (oddly enough ;-) ) and we've discussed this test frequently; the common consensus is that it has (limited) value NOT for the results it gives, but because you feel the need to take it; i.e. if you weren't already questioning your gender identity, you wouldn't bother with it, whatever result you achieve.


It's rather like tossing a coin to make a decision; once the coin is in the air, you suddenly realise which way you WANT it to fall, and that's the answer you wanted all along, but were too afraid to admit.





What you ought to do is to closely and honestly examine your motives for taking this test; and, if you feel it's necessary, talk to a therapist with experience in gender issues. he or she will be able to help you decide who you really are, how to deal with that, and what, if anything, you need to do about it.


If you don't know where to find such a therapist, you could start searching here;


http://www.drbecky.com/therapists.html





Hope this helps.
Questions like this are always had for another person to answer because we havent been though the same life experiences as you have.





My first question for you would be are you comfortable with who you are and i dont mean just not but for most of your life





There are MANY times in EVERYONE'S life when they don't want to be themselves for a whole host or reasons





Secondly i know this seems mean and most people wouldnt bring it up but what would your friends and family this of you if you went though with this.


I only ask this question because many people need the love and support of there family and friends its human nature to want to be wanted to be accepted would you be able to live with yourself if you lost there respect and love having said that though would you be able to live with yourself if this is who you truly believe you are and dont act upon it.





I guess i havent really helped you here have i :D


but i thought i might outline a few things for you in case you hadent though of them





I personally wouldnt know what to do if it where me im sorry


i need my family and friends am i am the type of person that will sacrifice my own happiness just to keep them with me





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