I need your advice! Thank you.?

I am in a long distance-relationship with a man who is generally wonderful. But every time, when he feels some difficulties with me-in my thought- he just disappears from me. It means no phone calls, no texts.


My concern is..because it already happened 3 times.





This time it was 2 weeks ago. I discussed with him about my job related problem, and I did not hear from him again.





I waited for few days and I called him/text him for a conversation.


But he only returned with ';just very tired.';





And that was it. I decided to stop calling him. And 3 days ago, he suddenly text me '; Life being kind to you, I hope.';


But I did not return him this time.





We are late 30s and both once married before, it means we know what to do for a relationship.





It hurts me deeply but I feel I should not contact him unless he is willing to do. Please give me any advice..Thank you..I need your advice! Thank you.?
Just cool off a little. Let him find you because if he is keen he will. Your last paragraph is totally correct. I have been through this too. Get out and PHYSICALLY do things otherwise you will never get it out of your head.I need your advice! Thank you.?
i would be suspicious that at the times he is ';disappearing'; he is with someone else. Just because he ';knows what to do'; for a relationship, doesn't mean he'll do it. you deserve better than this!
When a guy texts you, ';Life being kind to you, I hope,'; he obviously doesn't really have anything to say to you and without communciation I don't see where there's a relationship. If he can't be there for you and listen when you are voicing your problems and concerns...then it's apparent that he isn't ready to be in a relationship...let alone long distance. You can't just up and disappear whenever you feel like it and leave your partner wondering what happened. He may be a wonderful guy sometimes but sometimes doesn't count. If you stop contacting him you might as well just end it. That's just my opinion. You both have been married but maybe he still doesn't understand what makes a relationship work.
He is not interested in your problems. He doesn't want to discuss them. He just wants you for good times. Just read between the lack of lines.
To be completely honest with you it doesn't really seem like you two ';know what to do for a relationship'; at all.


I would talk to him and ask him exactly what does he want out of your relationship and where does he see the two of you say 5 years from now?


What kind of relationship can you have if he is allowed to check out when ever he sees fit? Why would you put up with this?



hmmmm well like she said.... let him go. Before more feelings get involved and you end up getting hurt more. Long distant relationship rarely work so, find someone near you that you can actually BE with.
';Life being kind to you, I hope'; is not a very personal message, it sounds like a detatched message. If he's not in touch with you for weeks and he's not in a war zone, then I'd say he's not much for commitment. Or he feels you're available when it's convenient for him. Someone worth your time is someone who will listen to things that bother you as well as things that make you happy.
Dear Sorge,


I believe he's probably tired of hearing you complain about the bad things or you know the things that happen in your job and other areas of your life. I know that we at times have difficulties in the work place and every where else for that matter. But don't dwell in them just let it go. Once your home let it go. And start fresh with a pleasant conversation that does not bring negative feed back. There is so many bad things happening in the world why add some more. I believe he just wants to air out. Give him some space, he'll come around and when he does give him a different attitude he'll notice..works like a charm.





Good Luck.





Chao



why do you put up with this? get over him and find someone who will give you what you want.
let him go now before you get too attached. I am sorry.
ohhh sweetheart get a new man ..... this is not going to work sorry!